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The Regulate Starter Kit
The first step in the framework is the hardest one to start. This kit gives you three tools you can use today — no experience required.
What's inside
Practical, printable, built around Step 1 of the framework.
01
Regulate
You control your state.
The foundation. Before you can help your child, your own nervous system needs to be in a regulated state. Calm is contagious — and so is dysregulation.
- Body check: where you're holding tension right now
- Physiological sigh technique (30 seconds)
- Window of tolerance — how to recognize yours
02
Connect
You create safety.
Once you're regulated, you can create the conditions for your child to feel safe. The kit includes scripts for co-regulation in common hard moments.
- What connection looks like when words don't work
- 5 de-escalation postures that signal safety
- Meeting them where they are — not where you want them
03
Daily Reset Guide
Start each day from regulation.
A one-page morning and evening ritual that takes 5 minutes. Builds the baseline that makes everything else possible.
- Morning: your state check-in before the day starts
- Evening: what you're carrying and how to put it down
- Weekly: what's working, what needs adjusting